Session 1: Intro
Technology is in its proper place when…
· It helps us bond with real people we have been given to love.
· It starts great conversations.
· It helps us take care of the fragile bodies we inhabit.
· It helps us acquire a skill and mastery of domains that are the glory of human culture.
· It helps us cultivate awe for the created world we are part of and responsible for stewarding.
“The proper place for technology won’t be exactly the same for every family, and it is not the same at every season of life.” pg 19
“So figuring out the proper place for technology in our particular family and stage of life requires discernment rather than a simple formula.” pg 19
· When has a device made your life easier?
· When have you become aware of the control your device has over you or your family?
“Parents know we need help.
We love the way devices make our lives easier amid the stress and busyness that fills our days. We love the way screens can, almost magically, absorb our children’s attention and give us a few moments of quiet in the car or before dinner.” pg 25
“Parents feel out of control, hopelessly overmatched by the deluge of devices.” pg 26
“The kids know we need help too.
They see how addicted their own parents are to devices.” pg 26
“[Kids] have been competing with their parents’ screens for attention their whole lives. They see their parents tethered to their laptops, trying to stay ahead of work that has spilled out of the office into evenings and weekends.” Pg 27
Technology and Parenting
Imagine how your parents may have answered this question.
Do you feel the same stress in parenting with technology?
Why or why not?
“Our homes aren’t meant to be just refueling stations, places where we and our devices rest briefly, top up our charge, and then go back to frantic activity. They are meant to be places where the very best of life happens.” Pg 29
“Nudges: small changes in the environment around us that make it easier for us to make the choices we want to make or want others to make. Nudges don’t generally make us do anything, but they make certain choices easier and more likely” Pg 33
1. Choose Character– cultivate wisdom and courage.
2. Shape Space– put development of character and creativity at the hear of our home.
3. Structure Time– build rhythms that make it possible to get to know one another, God and the world in a deeper way.
The Tech-Wise Commitments
1. We develop wisdom and courage together as a family.
2. We want to create more than we consume.
3. We are designed for a rhythm of work and rest.
4. We wake up before our devices do, and they “go to bed” before we do.
5. We aim for “no screens before double digits” at school and at home.
6. We use screens for a purpose and we use them together.
7. Car time is conversation time.
8. Spouses have one another’s passwords and total access to children’s devices.
9. We learn to sing together.
10. We show up in person for the big events of life.
We will use this space as a follow-up to our Sunday morning discussions. If you're unable to make it to one of the Sunday morning discussions we'll also post a brief summary here as well as some specific questions or activities you can do with your family.
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